Although nearly everyone understands the impact and tragedy deaths brings, they may not expect to confront the possible role changes it presents.
For instance, when a death first occurs, there is normally an outpouring of support from neighbors, friends, extended family, even the community at large. As time goes on, people tend to go back to their respective routines and the survivor or survivors are left to figure out what to do next.
Whether it’s back to work or school, we attempt to return to our version of normal life. While it may be a relief to have “busywork” to distract the survivor, that very situation often interrupts the necessary process of grieving. Oftentimes, we are forced to return before we are ready, as typically people are only granted 3-5 days to tend to the details a death creates . Rushing yourself can lead to trouble focusing; concentration may be difficult, and at times even simple tasks can be overwhelming. Trouble sleeping is another common occurrence. Without proper rest it’s difficult to get up to face the challenges of the day . Upon our return, those who care about us are struggling as well. Maybe our co-workers or other students don’t always know what to say, or worse, they say nothing. We often need acknowledgement of the passing. Most often, a simple “I know that person was important and you’re missing them” works wonders. A broken heart is no different than a broken bone. It is a very real pain that requires a healing process. No one would expect anyone who had just broken their leg to run in a marathon before it had time to mend, yet we are somehow expected to return to our normal lives prior to give ourselves time to heal from the excruciating pain we all feel when we experience the loss of someone we love. Be kind to yourself, and take a couple moments when you need them to cry, or scream, or remember something wonderful about the person who passed, and smile or laugh. Greif has no rules. No wrong or right. Unfortunately, there is no way around it. You must go through it.
So where can you learn to cope, or comfort yourself?
That is where funeral professionals can really help.
We can provide resources for you or your family members who need it.
We do that in several ways:
1) Resources- we can connect you to professional grief counselors, through Hospice or private practice, or we can provide specific study materials about grief.
We are proud to introduce
Lisa Nail, MA
Registered Mental Health Councelor, Intern, who can help in any and all grief therapy situations, from children who have suffered a loss, adults trying to cope with grief or other overwhelming emotions, and any type of needed mental health intervention. She works on a sliding payment scale to fit any financial situation. Her office is located at 7302 Sheldon Road, Tampa 33615. Her phone number is (813) 575- 0478
She also has her own website http://www.lisanailcounseling.com
2) Programs in the area- Hospice family counselors, or an area church group or support group, in the Brandon area, Bay Life Church is a great resource.
3) Community involvement– Throughout the year, we will host several community events that we will post on this website to which everyone is invited, including our Christmas Memorial Service, at which we will provide a memorial decoration to the family we served honoring their loved one. This will be held around the second week of December.
We hold toy drives for local charities.
We also collect letters and discarded cell phones to support soldiers oversees, including Christmas cards, and care packages.
Transitions Program: Next Cycle to be posted soon
We meet at the funeral home, on the second Thursday of each month for each 6 week cycle:
We combine life skills, grief sharing, crafts, outings, and fellowship to learn how to operate in our new roles following the loss of a partner or family member. Traditionally geared towards widows or widowers, but all are welcome to attend.